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與家人關係差 離家多年無來往 得悉哥哥家道中落 母冀接濟港女感猶豫
20 Apr 2021

 

常言道「家家有本難唸的經」。近日有女網民於討論區上分享指,多年前已離家獨立生活,惟最近覺得人漸長應與家人聯繫感情,遂與多年無來往的家人聯絡後,發現哥哥一家的生活大不如前,母親暗示希望女網民可以接濟幫忙,惟女網民覺得自己沒有虧欠家人,目前擁有都是靠自己努力換取。面對兩難,女網民遂向網民請教應如何處理。

 

該女網民於「連登討論區」分享。

 


該女網民於「連登討論區」分享指,多年前已與家人關係差,一早已自立,與家人已經無再聯絡,「搬出嚟住冇用佢哋錢,但都冇俾錢佢哋,冇聯絡」。

直到近日與家人再次聯絡後,才驚覺原來哥哥的一家好景不常, 「由住私樓請工人,到依家要帶成家搬返去阿媽間舊公屋度,幾個人逼埋一齊」。在言談間,母親得悉樓主的生活過得不俗,於是向她暗示冀樓主能接濟屋企,可以幫姪女補習等。

樓主指,本以為哥哥的生意不俗,衣食應該無憂,或可能因其夫婦二人過度揮霍累事,甚至連累了本身可自給自足的母親。樓主亦坦言,家中一直都以「放養」對待她,強調「冇支援亦冇栽培」,能有今日的生活,全靠自己努力換取,因此,「從來唔覺得我欠佢哋啲乜」。

樓主與男朋友商談時,本身男友都鼓勵她再與家人聯絡,惟兩人得知其家人有可能為長期負累時,「當堂覺得保持下距離好啲」。樓主最後亦表示,原來打算家人修補關係,惟得家人的現狀後,又怕被他們「拖後腿」並直言,「我之後都要生仔有自己人生計劃」,因此遂向網民請教應如何處理。

 

有不少網民認為樓主不應投入過多感情(《Penthouse》劇照)

 

帖文引起網民的熱論,有不少網民認為樓主不應投入過多感情,認為大家已各自互不拖欠,「正常都唔應該投入太多感情,你都識講佢地洗腳唔抹腳,你幫得一次,到時拖累埋你」,「理性層面,唔應該幫,感性層面,就應該幫」,「你都話以前係放養你,咁以前又唔見幫下你?」。

亦有網民表示,可以考慮提供適量幫助,以換取與家人的天倫之樂,「至少佢地唔係有日無啦啦搵你借錢先,我覺得適量既幫,當係用錢換返你既天倫之樂」,「負擔到既咪俾少少家用呀媽,當幫下老母/姪女,話哂你老母都叫養大你」。

 

資料來源:連登討論區/星島日報

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